Monday, December 12, 2005

I finally figured out what I want to say to folks who constantly ask me why we homeschool. I came up with this scenario. (although it may not come out this way most of the time):

Them: Hey, no school today?

Me: No, she's homeschooled.

Them: Why would you do that?

Me: Because my daughter is more than just another kid out of 30. She's not one of the "average". She shouldn't have to concede to someone else's idea of how, what, and when she learns. She has her own learning style and her own interests. She finds it much more effective to engage in real life applied learning as opposed to the school way which is canned and artificial. Socially, she is at an advantage. Her friends are all different ages instead of all the same. She knows how to interact with adults as well as little children since she's out in the real world more than schoolchildren are. Instead of being cooped up for over 6 hours a day behind a desk being forced to conform, my daughter is free to run, play, explore her world intensely, and be a child. She can eat when she's hungry, sleep when she's tired, and use the bathroom when she needs to. I have no worries about her self-esteem remaining intact throughout her teen years. Nor do I worry about her falling in with the wrong crowd, changing who she is to fit in, or facing any kind of continuous peer harassment. She maintains a wonderful love of learning and self-motivation since coming home and best of all, she is happy.

7 comments:

Jo in NZ said...

I was going to leave a comment yesterday,. I'm glad I didn't, because I can say it today, and mean it even more.
You are an inspiration. The time and energy you put into your children and their education is fantastic. I admire your committment, and envy your choice to follow it through.

I think you should make up flyers with your 'reason' printed on them, and just hand them to people who ask about homeschooling.

NYCitymomx3 said...

Thanks so much, Jo!

Julie said...

Yeah for you! It is shocking when people say things like that. The worst is when they say it to your child.

This is the first time I have visited your blog and the first post I have ever read, but I love your answer to this question (that all homeschoolers hear *way* too much) and I'll be reading more!

Peach said...

Hey there again! I am still reading and loving what you have to say. It helps me to remember that the days we don't sit down and officially "do school" are still learning days.

What you shared may inspire K to be homeschooled as well, since all of the things that are working for J may work for her, too, eventually.

Jo was right. You've been an inspiration to many -- I've been with you since almost the very beginning of your journey, and it's been cool to watch you blossom into the role of a homeschooling/unschooling mom. Kudos to you!

NYCitymomx3 said...

Julie: Thanks! I hope you stick around!

Peachtea: It's good to see you again! Thanks for the kind words.

Patrice said...

You're much kinder than I would be. I could see me saying something smartass. hahaha. But it's so true. :) And I love the lifestyle. It's 12:23 AM and my kids are still up, but I'm not worried b/c we're on our own schedule.

NYCitymomx3 said...

Awesome, Patrice. I have a tendency to want to say something smartass, too, but I'm trying to tone that down lately, LOL! I can actually come up with about 200 more reasons why I homeschool, but that may be overkill. I wish people just understood.